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Speaking the Truth
I have never been accused of not
speaking my mind or of not speaking the truth - which are not
the same thing, of course. But, Grandmother's lesson this month
is challenging, don't you think? ...speaking the truth as it
is called to be spoken in a way that others can hear. Finding
the courage to do that in tough situations, not out of anger,
frustration or admonition, but from a place of understanding
and without an agenda to change a situation. Instead to speak
to what is and recognize that whether things change as we desire
them to change is not for us to determine.
regularly spoken the truth and not been believed, it's been
the one thing I have truly raged against throughout my life.
It's taken me up to very recently to realize that my life lesson
is to understand that speaking the truth is more about your
integrity than anyone hearing or understanding. I can speak
it and not be heard and that is neither my problem nor my responsibility.
It's very freeing to give up expecting others to know I am truthful,
but still a work in progress. It still hurts when people you
love don't think you are telling the truth, but at least now
I don't feel like I have to run after them demanding they listen,
demanding to explain myself.
the truth is like wading through water, if youre not careful
with yourself as well as with the one receiving it, the emotional
splash back can be drowning. It is true that if spoken with
the right intent and from the grounded heart in the Spirit you
will speak the truth eloquently with care.
this Grandmother teaches us to speak it with graceful hearts,
with kindness not to harm or point fingers. That's usually where
mistakes happen. People tend to speak it emotionally rather
than sensitively. We can all learn much from her teachings.
points, Eshard and Cinn, I'm Sag Rising. I speak truth with
graceless optimism and tactlessness. But never ever meant to
harm and never from negative emotion. Only from joy, which I
forget can be a slap in the face to those in pain, fear or denial.
We forget, in our own happiness, that positive emotion is harsh
to those not ready for it. Even truthful love can hurt if not
Yes, good points Crow. And
thinking before we speak is one of the things this Grandmother
teaches. She wants us to look into our hearts for the grace
that will make the truth easier to be received...through kind
thoughtfulness to lift up rather than tear down another.
well did I ever screw up this lesson this month!
I was fed up, and rightly so, and overworked and spoke tactlessly
and hurtfully from emotion to colleagues.
had taken the time to not act from frustration and consider
others more carefully, it probably would have turned out better.
As it is, I'm doing the apology thing, the walk of shame thing,
and the eventual, 'oh eff it' thing. Fun times.
Feel free to learn from my mistakes everyone!! lol.
I'll try to do the same. But I can't help but feel that I have
been here before...and before...and before that too. And STILL
haven't learned this lesson.
Frustration is a difficult emotion to deal with for me. Especially
because I don't recognize myself as being frustrated until it's
REALLY BUILT UP and ready to knock the damns down. And so...since
I'm still not perfect, and never will be, and ultimately don't
desire myself to be, I am learning instead to Love My Self Always,
including any and all mistakes, any and all misbehaviors, and
with the same kind of forgiveness/second, third, fourth chances
that I'd readily offer another.
I'll continue to try to learn to speak more tactfully and heartfully;
Spirit knows I'm doing my best; but in the meantime - I'm gonna
choose not to beat myself up for being human.
thing I've found challenging with Speaking my Truth is that
really, most don't want to hear it. I don't mean that in a 'woe
is me, no one's listening' sense either. I just mean that mostly,
as people, I've found we're most interested in our OWN truths,
not our neighbors'. So it's a journey for me also to learn about
speaking truth without hope or expectation of it being received
well, or even received at all.
M2, I'm tied up with some
business matters at the moment and have to get those seen to
so I'm flying through here so this is brief. I do want to leave
you with the thought that you should re-read your post...see
how your awareness of yourself just shifted buy that experience.
If it's shifted enough the cycle of passing through it will
have been broken and you'll move past it the wiser, having understanding,
and having grown. Some of my most humbling lessons have come
from mistakes like that and I'd have never seen those things
in myself had I not made them. I wasn't looking for them. The
experiences made them jump out at me and say: Well, that's embarrassing.
I won't be doing that again. And I chose on the spot to change.
Seems to me that's where you're standing with this right now.
*Soft smile* Lesson learned?...that's your choice.
Pssssssst ... stop using the 'can't'
coincidentally happens to be one (there are 2) of the lessons
or tasks I have given to myself to work on currently, too. In
speaking my truth, first, I find I must be honest with myself
about how I feel about certain things. Not always easy for me,
but getting easier. If I come from that place, first and try
to remain in compassion and heart-feelings, speaking my truth
has been (so far) surprisingly easy. Far easier, I must say
than all the anxiety I used to work up in the past over what
ifs and maybes. One thing I would like to add, though and especially
to michelangelo2 is that I have had to learn that speaking my
truth has less to do with how others will (or may) receive me,
but more to do with being true to myself. Do that, and most
all else falls into place pretty well.
for these posts.
from this Moon...
Speaking my truth
- what is my intention? Is it my intention to be right? To defend
something? To prove a point or teach without being asked?
On the other hand,
how often do I hold my tongue when I know that the consequences
of holding my tongue are not in alignment with my intentions.
It is because I make myself responsible for or dependent on
the other (whoever that "other" might be).
Both are externally
driven and motivated. Both are maligned with fear and both are
conditional on "other" and they are hooked to "shoulds",
duty and expectation.
When I speak my
truth from love, from the heart, from Essence, it is unattached
to action or reaction of another. It
is a declaration of my own intent, my own values, a snapshot
of my own place in life. And from that, I always have the choice
and freedom to shift my truth if needed, and others have the
option of shifting theirs if it resonates. Unconditional.
learned to allow myself the emotional room to turn around after
coming to the understanding of a job not well done by me. I
so dislike it when I recognize I've been in this place not just
before but yet again! I take care of my wounded emotions as
I would a child. I'm self-forgiving and though feeling miserable
I'm glad that I've been allotted the time to try again, hopefully
learning the self-truths there that I failed or wasn't ready
to command justly before. And actually there have been times
that going to the one that I rolled over with heated emotions,
they were holding for me the key of release from being caught
up in the never ending turnabout. They themselves usually don't
know that they're path was brought together with yours for a
purpose of learning. And just maybe it was them that needed
your emotions to open them. "One can't shed light upon
another's path without it falling on your own." I don't
remember who the quote belongs to but I've never forgotten the
truth of it. So what I've tried to say here is, be gentle with
yourself and remember we are so limited in our sight when it
comes to the "Why".
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